miscarriage in hospital or at home . Generally for many families experiencing a miscarriage in hospital can be very daunting. In short other mothers on the maternity unit will be having healthy babies . Particular notice is how midwives and other medical staff treat women during a late miscarriage. Besides it can have a profound effect in many years to come. So how can Midwives, Consultants or Doctors in hospital could be improved upon for a miscarriage or stillbirth even..d
During research some parents had this to say about having late miscarriage in hospital
- post mortem after a stillbirth at 23 weeks …. Can you make sure the family is told when baby is back from a post-mortem. Waiting 2 weeks our family couldn’t arrange the baby’s funeral. Its because no one told us our baby boy had come back from the post mortem. A year later same thing happened to another family causing them so much grief .
- Early termination for a medical condition knowing baby will not be viable at birth . Do not keep pestering the family to abort the baby. If a family express their wishes not to terminate do not keep pestering. It is their decision to make not the medical staff.
What to say during a miscarriage to parents
- Miscarriage at 23 weeks keep up the good work talk. Remember to talk my baby as if he or she was alive, it makes all the difference. But do not say congratulations and I’m sorry in the same breath it makes no sense.
- Saying good bye after a late miscarriage . If possible move us away from crying babies and it was good that any member of my family could come to say good bye and have a final cuddle.
- After a miscarriage the midwife said to my baby boy ” It’s going to be ok mummy and daddy are very brave and want to spend time with you loving and cuddling you”. Incidentally that means a lot.
support for a miscarriage
As an example having pains being sick during a miscarriage. Knowing my baby will be born not viable at 20 weeks. What can I expect I was terrified and please don’t say its all over now, It will ring in my ears forever.
- having a miscarriage at 23 weeks …There needs to be an information pack about Miscarriage. Such as losing a baby at different stages. For instance no death certificate provided for a baby born to a miscarriage at 20 week. Subsequently how you organise a funeral after a miscarriage. Arrange for someone to come and take my baby’s hand and footprints .
- For a baby miscarriage what support is there ? After do we just get on with it or are there some charities that can help with counselling ?
after a miscarriage taking care of cremation ashes
when your baby has sadly passed away early on in pregnancy due to a miscarriage you may decide on a funeral or even a cremation service . If you decide to have a cremation its totally different. After you can get the ashes returned to you. later on you can then decide to scatter bury or keep close by as a memorial forever.
If you have a miscarriage at home you may just want to bury baby in the garden in a little box depending how far along you are. (less than 23 weeks) babies that have reached 24 weeks by law have to have a funeral or cremation.
Some parents don’t realise its your own baby and you can decide the options. Namely opttions for the hospital to do the cremation. another option is a funeral director to organise the burial or cremation . In fact do your own scattering ashes memorial day once the crematorium have given you the ashes remains.
You can choose your own little cremation urn for babies or look through the funeral directors catalogue but the range may be limited. Depending on the gestational age of baby also determines how much ashes you will get. due to a baby’s bone structure early on in pregnancy and fluid there isn’t much ashes remains for very early babies once they have been cremated.
cremation after a miscarriage scatter baby’s ashes keep or bury them
If you scatter all of baby’s ashes you cant get them back once done. Your partner may have other ideas if you want to bury them such as putting some in an ashes cremation necklace.
5 things to consider with a baby’s ashes remains.
- you can bury them in a family plot with grandparents
- you could spread them in the baby garden of remembrance at the local cemetery
- your baby’s ashes could be put in a baby’s cremation urn on the mantelpiece
- create a little shelf in baby’s bedroom with a picture teddy and ashes urn memorial.
- you can write a letter for family members to note that your baby will be buried or cremated with your own remains in the distant future.
- scatter parts baby’s ashes in sections as a family where you would have taken your child had they lived such as the park the zoo scattered near a tree,or at the seaside.
choosing an ashes urn casket for miscarried babies
what is available in the Uk for baby ashes remains to go in ?
ceramic made urns for children …… can tip over and smash due the materials its made from
large box with lid coloured in cute patterns …… size can be overwhelming for tiny babies when you only get a small amount ashes back.
metal urns for babies large in size not recommended for a tiny amount ashes.
miscarriage baby ashes urns by “Forever Mine” hand made in uk from natural wooden materials that can be buried in earth that’s kind to the environment, or kept forever near the parents close by