miscarriage at home up to 14 weeks gestation what happens to your baby ?
miscarriage at home and you are less than 14 weeks gestation in pregnancy. Here is what happens to the baby in the case of a miscarriage. Its only seeing red that you realise. Oh no I think I’ve lost the baby should I have flushed the toilet ?
But what happens if you miscarry and manage to catch the baby in tissue or in your underwear ? To begin with a baby cannot survive born at 14 weeks . Besides technology hasn’t developed enough to help babies born this early on in pregnancy. To summarise The earliest hospitals intervene is around 22-24 weeks gestation depending on their policy. (dated in the year 2019)
you may quickly wrap it in a towel until your partner comes home and keep it in the freezer but its not a long term solution.
As a baby bereavement specialist and researching this particular question. Here is what you can do with your baby / fetus after a miscarriage at home.
depending how many weeks gestation you are can determine what you do with the fetus. Often its only at the first scan around 12 weeks in pregnancy. that baby died The scan reveals that it has been baby has gone from the womb as a naturally miscarriage. You may be thinking I only had a little spotting of blood.
Questions about a miscarriage at home and hospital
if you managed to catch the fetus as it miscarried. Do you ring an ambulance. the answer is no as seeing the baby outside shows you have indeed lost it. and would not be viable born at less than 21 weeks-24 weeks gestational age. Not unless you are bleeding so heavily you feel weak and blood is gushing out of you and it wont stop.
Question 1…. I don’t feel right flushing my baby down the toilet shall I bury it in the garden? Answer 1…You could dig a hole at least 18inches deep and away from a direct water supply in your garden to bury your baby in. planting a little rose bush over the top can be therapeutic watching it bloom and see roses develop with a beautiful aroma. Then you can cut some in full bloom to keep by your side in the house in a vase of water in memory of baby.
Question 2…. I don’t feel comfortable wrapping my baby a tiny fetus in tissue then burying it straight in a hole . what could I use that would be more appropriate id hate it for my baby to feel cold. Answer 2….you can order a fetal demise pouch so baby can lie in it snug and settled then place into a tiny wooden casket before going directly into the ground.
home cremation after a miscarriage of baby fetus
a cremation is the incineration of bodily remains that brings the contents to a dust like appearance called ashes. the home cremation for babies less than 14 weeks gestation. Home cremations can be done by a family member on a little fire outside. use a closed tin with a lid with holes at the bottom . if any ashes remain these can be kept or scattered. Generally in an mini ashes urn for babies . or kept in a little ashes urn necklace or ashes jewellery keepsake.
If you contact your local crematorium they would tell you if there is a charge and what paperwork you would need to have. They need this form filled in, in order for them to conduct a cremation for a fetus born in the second trimester and upwards.
Question 3 Do I have to see the doctor after a miscarriage at home at 11 weeks gestation ? I lost the baby down the toilet and bled for a week afterwards ?
Answer 3 You could do a pregnancy test 2 weeks after the miscarriage to see if any hormones are still present if you are starting to feel feverish some of the tissue could still be left inside and may cause and infection. if its showing negative then unless you are bleeding very heavily and it wont stop you do not need to see a doctor unless you are worried at all. As a rule you may quickly wrap it in a towel until your partner comes home and keep it in the freezer but its not a long term solution.
miscarry of a baby at the 12th week of pregnancy
In a cremation because baby under 12 weeks it hasn’t yet developed strong bones. Therefor in these cases there wouldn’t be much ashes remains. If you did want ashes you could also use a little burial coffin with a blankets etc .
so having looked into what other mums in the same situation did. here is what they said….
- as a result of a miscarriage You cant just flush them down the loo. unless its an accident. To help bring closure it will help you cope with your loss , by giving baby a little send off. Showing them dignity and respect . Next you can find a little box and take them to a favourite walking spot. As a result your baby could be buried and visited often. So then leave a little memorial stone saying special son or daughter in place. It will help you remember the exact spot when you visit. Please get landowner permission if its a private area.
- don’t bury them direct in the garden. Hence as you worry too much about them being in the cold ground. Thus if a miscarriage happens in winter you find the ground is too solid due to ice snow etc.
- another reason for not burying them directly in the garden. Subsequently Years down the line you may decide to move. You cannot physically take baby’s remains with you and could regret it later when you have moved. In particular the land may be used for something else.
- Buy a huge stone planter to bury baby in. Place baby in a tiny coffin box or casket .Incidentally you could also scatter any ashes urn remains. As a result if you opted for a cremation service. Plant a bush or mini shrub on top. If you are worried you’ll for get to water it ? add artificial plants and flowers instead. Then it can be carried with you and taken along if you move house.
Guidelines for burying a baby through miscarriage at home under 12 weeks of pregnancy (gestational age).
- the burial should not cause any danger to others.
- not interfere with any rights other people have on the land.
- have no chance of bodily fluids leaking onto adjoining land.
- no danger of bodily fluids escaping into water courses ie lakes etc or water supplies.
- lastly must be buried at least 18 inches deep or 45cm in depth.
If I have a miscarriage at the hospital do they keep my baby even if its only small.
if you miscarry at the hospital they do not usually keep your baby’s remains . Because you sign a contract or a consent form . Its to decide what you would like to see happen with your baby . and any remaining tissue samples. The options are…
In brief after miscarriage in hospital You take baby home to bury or have a cremation service. You or a family member make arrangements and pay for costs. Most funeral directors do not charge for babies but please check with them first
For instance hospital arranges a communal burial . Also a cremation without you being involved. Next the hospital pays for cost. If you changed you mind wanting to move baby’s body at a later stage. incidentally then this would not be possible . For instance Its a service for all babies buried or cremated together.
or you can also consent to you being involved in the hospital arrangements hospital pays for cost.